Dating emotionally unstable men
So if you are a female with lots of males friends, you probably have a lot of men who, under different circumstances, would most definitely like to have sex with you. Our first thought is “there’s no way anyone woman in their right mind, with any standards or pride, would have sex with that”. And if we had to be born female, we’d prefer to be a lesbian. One of the main driving forces for a man to settle down is to secure access to frequent and reliable sex. By pairing up with a woman who can provide sex on a frequent basis, we’ve eliminated one of life’s biggest distractions and sources of frustration. This is because by having sex you just demonstrated to him that you have a relationship to begin with. You might have a beautiful ring on your finger and a date marked on the calendar, but if you haven’t met mom and the sisters, chances are you’re being strung along. I’m sure there are some out there with far more experience than me who could add numerous items to my lists. Not sure we’ll ever really understand their reasons, but with a lot of trust and mutual respect, the reasons don’t seem to matter. And if they’re not followed then in HIS mind he’s not engaged. Of course the bullet points above are from either personal experience or simply witnessing those around me for many years.Most people assume that there must be something wrong with men who stay in relationships with women who have traits of borderline personality disorder, men who know the right move is to leave but who find themselves unable to let go.In Part 2 of this blog series you are going to learn that there are very specific reasons why women with traits of borderline personality disorder seem to attract a certain type of man and why these men so often can’t let go of these troubled relationships. Certain Western behaviors trigger certain Eastern thoughts. Throw on a bikini and tell him you want to spend the day at the beach. Yeah, he’s still protective but he’s also truly dedicated and loyal. Yeah, he may have thrown those dishdashas in the closet and traded them in for a pair of jeans, but in no way has his mind changed. Arab engagements differ from country to country so I won’t go into great detail about the exact procedures. The things above may make the Arab male seem unreasonable and make some wonder why a woman would even consider marrying one. On a positive note, when an Arab man does get married it’s almost as if he matures overnight.
Since you’re ‘officially engaged’ according to him (you’re not, rest assured) then living together is OK. Remember, you’re not in the typical American relationship where people meet, date, live together, share a bed, then decide if they want to get married. His wife then becomes one of the women in his family.
Some of the women who write are working in Kuwait and dating a Kuwaiti. And during this time you’re expected to call him (though he’s not going to answer) and send endless text messages. Don’t ask me how, but Arab men are masters at turning things around. it’s ‘disrespectful’ and you’ll be accused of behaving like a man. If he’s not comfortable with your answers he’ll simply drive you himself.
Some are living in their home country but having an online relationship with an Arab man living in his. If you don’t then he’s going to accuse you of talking to other men during this time. Regardless of what he does and how bad it really is, you’re eventually going to find yourself doing the apologizing.
This comes from not wanting to ‘bother’ a woman with things that might upset her…
He will ask (or do it without asking) to look through your phone at any given moment. He, on the other hand, will more than likely have more mobile phones than you’re even aware of. If you’re leaving the house without him you’ll be expected to notify him verbally, by text, or a phone call. Regardless of how much fun you think the two of you are having together, he’ll choose spending time with his friends at the drop of a hat. This is the one where he’s mentioned marriage, or at least hinted at it. Don’t get excited, chances are you’re not off to meet mom anytime soon. He’s going to do anything in his power to convince you that sharing a bed is perfectly natural since you’re going to be sharing your life together in the near future. Finally, all men from all cultures are completely different. Don’t write to me telling me that I’m bashing Arab men or the culture. And please, if you have more to add, feel free to email or comment.