Paying etiquette dating
Very attractive.”Another set of women said that if their date their offer to split the bill, there would be no second date — but they were in the minority.
Why do we feel so strongly that guys should pay for a first date?
A single man in possession of a good fortune must be the one picking up the check. Sure, women have made tremendous gains since the famous first line of “Pride and Prejudice” was published, but some of the same dynamics still stubbornly persist in heterosexual relationships today.
From who pays for the first date, to who buys the diamond ring used to propose, to who manages the money, every negotiation in relationships can seem weighted, even engineered, toward one inevitable end: The man having — and controlling — the money.
To figure out why there’s such a taboo around the tab, we decided to send out a follow-up survey.
And what we learned was that even among women who offer to split the bill, they usually don’t.
Of over 220 women surveyed, more than half (55%) reported that even though they generally offer to pay their part, most often their date covers the whole thing.
Guys, for the most part, say they’re picking up the tab (59%). About one in five say that they expect their date to pay. The remaining female members (23%) choose to skip the question entirely.
This makes the question of paying the bill one of the most skipped questions on Ok Cupid; for reference, people skip the question “How do you feel about anal sex” only 3% more often.